Open letter to social media queens
Janet got bored and decided to check through her social accounts for any latest updates, Instagram struck her attention, she scrolled through the list of posts but got stuck on the pictures of a particular girl, she checked on her pictures could not do much but wonder how on earth a human being could be so gorgeous, painted lips, cleavage-bearing top, polished fingers, face perfectly moulded, her pose is a seductive one with her boot perfectly shot out, and her smile is something a guy can kill for, she is undeniably cute with over 10k likes on each of her pictures and the mass number of attractions she gets from guys is extra-ordinary, comments ranging from ‘such a nice ass’ to ‘You are so sexy’. Her timeline is flooded with the “Can I get your phone number” type of message.
She scrolled deep through her photos and could see some pictures from previous years where the lady looks so ordinary, moderately dressed without any fancy hair or exposing clothing, those pictures have low likes.
Those pictures portrayed her look when she dresses ordinary and has no reason to impress anyone, after seeing all that she could imagine other girls who don’t have enough to spend on expensive make-ups or the cute-twisty looking hair. Inferiority sets in, she begins to see herself as not beautiful enough, the false version of beauty is what is being fed around on social media, creating a false understanding of what is supposed to be, people now believe when they don’t wear that glittering makeup, sparkling shoes from top brands or buy a cream to bleach off their skin, there is no way they can be publicly accepted.
Human beings are social animals, we always want to be publicly appreciated and when we don’t get the level of attractions or attention we want, we begin to see ourselves as not good enough, we begin to think something might be wrong with us, this thought makes us believe we are not good enough or not fit enough. Because of that girl on Facebook looks so cute, you see yourself as less good than she is, you begin to think how you can’t let your guy stand with her for a minute and you are sure to lose him but the reality is far from the truth, everyone has their time to strive and thrive, if your relationship could get messed up based on your partner seeing the picture of someone new on the gram then you should bid good riddance to such relationship because it would definitely be a waste of time.
Getting low likes or comments on your pictures might set in a feeling of doubt about ourselves while getting more likes or comments make us feel superior, appreciated and on-top-of-the-world, it makes us feel good and in one way or the other boosts up our ego. I clearly understand that most people point of business is their social media account but the rate at which it is swallowing our true human nature is alarming, It is creating problems that could breed more problems if a smart action plan is not in place.
This previous Christmas, I see people posting lots of happy Christmas messages on their accounts and wishing their loved ones, broadcasted messages are everywhere all over Whatsapp wishing their loved ones a Merry Christmas. I could vividly recall how a greeting like that is done in previous years, where we buy cards, wrap nice gifts and head straight to our loved one houses wishing them an awesome celebration while jollifying and savouring every bit of the moment without getting distracted by the wave of social media interests.
Self-acceptance is key like I said everything has it’s time and space to grow if you begin to place more values on scrolling, clicking and liking every bits your social media contents and it is affecting your personal life then you might need to properly have a re-think, our family and friends matter more and they are the real contents of our life that deserves excess 😍 🥰 😘, we should enjoy every moment we can with them, we are not designed to last forever.
No matter the qualities or attributes you have, there is someone with more or less of it, if you are tall or short, beautiful or ugly whatever the attributes, there is someone with more or less of it, just know this and have peace. Do the best you can in your own little way and enjoy the dynamism of life.
Peace ✌️.
